Sandra Elmasian, M.S.

Speak up and speak out about bullying!

admin — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 21:49:38 +0000

Now more than ever is the time to speak up and out about bullying. Jung’s words about the collective unconscios offer us the opportunity to act upon and relate to a topic that everyone is hearing about and more importantly feeling.

Bullying or being the victim of a bully leads one to an array of negative and damaging emotions. Never mind the effect that it has on one’s self=esteem.

In the step programs they all say that “secrets make us sick”. Take advantage of this chance to work on the secret if you are up to it.

Solutions to getting new business

admin — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 21:53:05 +0000

Interesting how old ideas resurface. The new mode is blogs, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn and all of the social media sites. They work!

Try something new like going to a meeting. It doesn’t even have to be a networking or business meeting. It can be a social get together or a fundraiser for a cause or a political meeting. Attending an event lends itself to a feeling of like mindedness and can be looked upon as someone who shares a passion or a belief or as someone that wants to learn more about the theme of the meeting.

Whatever your reason to be there is, it opens up the channel to communicate about the topic and more. Discussions about business will be easier to approach then or in the future..

This may be an old concept, but a lot of people moved away from it in the days before the recession. Now a lot of business people are finding that this new, but old method is working. It never stopped working,.

Rainy day blues or is it a day to jumpstart yourself?

admin — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 19:28:12 +0000

Dark cloudy rainy days can be a downer. Some would say it is depressing. My favorite definition of depression is “rage turned inward”. I always equate rage to rocket fuel. You can use the anger to get up and move or get into that project that you have been putting off. Once you get going you might surprise yourself by how much you accomplish. The key is to give yourself a jumpstart by strategically funneling that anger

Bottom line: it is one effective solution to procrastination.

The Money Diet

admin — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 00:28:31 +0000

Our new much needed spending habits are like going on a diet. Let’s face it our old habits are like a pair of pants or a dress that is too tight. We don’t like the feeling and we definitely don’t like the feeling.

Think of it this way. The necessities like shelter , food and transportation are the equivalent of our caloric baseline to maintain our body weight. The extras like the extra piece of cake (not the necessities) are the extra calories that we take in that require hard core exercise.

The bottom line: money is a necessity, but it has also served as an addiction especially in the previous years. Now we have to figure out better ways to deal.

Planning is part of the key.

More to come…

Push yourself to go out

admin — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 01:50:54 +0000

Do you know those days that you are supposed to go out and don’t feel like it. You drag your feet and whine in your head about going. So you shoot yourself out the door like a canon. “I don’t feel like going plays over and over in your head.

Then you get there and the unexpected occurs. You’re starting to have a good time. In certain social situations you might even meet someone new. You leave with a smile on your face and those feet that were drtagging going in have a spring in your step. Who knew it would be a good thing.

When you are exhausted reach out

admin — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:13:09 +0000

On those days that you feel like you are beyond exhausted both emotionally and physically you should reach out to a friend. You can talk about what is on your mind or just talk about whatever. The trick is to connect with someone that is positive.

Talk for a few minutes or talk for hours. Either way you will feel better and your energy will be improved. Reach out!

I want chocolate and I want it now!

admin — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:43:37 +0000

It is always interesting to take a quick check on what your mood is when the craving for chocolate hits. Once you get your first taste do you catapault into an avalanche of the chocolate delight or do you stop at one or two pieces. I am curious are you in an anxious or down state and do chocolate cravings have to have a deep psychological meaning or be a symptom of PMS? I’ve got to go now and eat some chocolate….maybe.

Conferences & Seminars..Is love in the air?

admin — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:07:26 +0000

Think of it. You go to a conference or a seminar. You are there primarily to learn and to meet old colleagues and to make new ones. However, think about it. You are in a hotel or classroom with like minded people. You have meals with old friends and have no problem about having a stranger aka a fellow attendee join your table. It just adds to the sharing of knowledge be it about the subject mater of the conference or where to get more towelsor coffee. It can be a great place to meet someone new.

Is love in the air? You develop a stranded island mentality. You’re all stuck here and that someone special has caught your attention or you theirs. A conference or a seminar can be a terrific meeting place. The hard part is to see if the relationship and most importantly the friendship intertwined with romance really has merit . That part of the discovery and the truth all takes place after you leave the island of learning,

Why do we pick the wrong person to date?

admin — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:04:32 +0000

Freud essentially says that we pick someone like our mother if we are a boy and someone like our father if we are a girl. What I have observed is that a lot of people pick the person that is like the parent (gender does not always apply) that we wanted love and/or approval from and never fully received. Usually our romantic choice is not a conscious one. If we can’t get the love from our parent then we will work very hard to get it from this other person that is the object of our affection over and over again.

Identifying the issues that came out of your relationship with your parent(s) is the first step towards breaking the unfulfilling cycle of bad relationships.

Who is there for me? One Solution

admin — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:00:49 +0000

These days a lot of people are wondering who is there for them. This is the time to reach out to your friends and family. It is also the time to reminisce. Maybe you’ve lost touch with old friends, family members or co-workers. Now is the time to rekindle those old contacts. You might be pleasantly surprised by their response. At the very least you will get to share the memory of old times or you might get to renew a relationship or make a business or job contact. You might be surprised at who is still there for you.